Teenage Couples

Teen Couples coverTeenage Couples: Caring Commitment and Change

Submitter: This book is (was – until today) in the collection of a middle school/high school library at a private American school abroad. It’s wrong here on so many levels. The students at our school are from wealthy and/or influential families from over 50 different countries. Their parents are college-educated and are international business people or diplomats. Over 95% of our students attend college or university. While my students are definitely not the right audience for this book, I’m not sure it belongs in any school. I hope our approach to this topic would have changed in the last 23 years. Frankly, I’m shocked this book isn’t older than it is. And the chapter titles. Sex begins in the kitchen? People are not for hitting? I’m new in this library, and it doesn’t look like the non-fiction section has been weeded since 1995. I’ve found a lot of treasures, but this is my favorite so far.

Holly: Are the couple pictured in the “Sex Begins in the Kitchen” image (below) supposed to be teenagers? They look about forty.

Teen Couples Contents

Teen Couples Contents

Teen Couples Contents

Sex Begins in the Kitchen

Predicting Success of Teen Marriage

People are not for hitting


  1. The “People Are Not for Hitting” message is absolutely still relevant today, and Submitter would be surprised to know how many “wealthy and/or influential” families it affects.

    1. Absolutely right, but hopefully presented in a book or other resource that was published within the last decade!

    1. Since it’s in a chapter about addiction, my thought was dealing drugs. Like, if you want to take a risk and sell pot when you’re young that’s one thing, but once you have a kid you should cut it out because it could seriously mess up your family’s life if you go to jail.

  2. That picture prefacing chapter 7 of the teen with the mustache MUST be from the 80’s!! Or the 70’s…

  3. Obviously dated, but the content doesn’t look as comically awful as the submitter seems to think it is. And even kids from “good” families need relationship advice sometimes — maybe they’re a little less likely to get married at 16, but they still may have issues in serious relationships with sex, abuse, addiction, pregnancy, etc. I hope the library has other resources covering those topics.

  4. The way the submitter goes on you’d think teen pregnancy and domestic abuse are non-existent in wealthy families whose children go to private school. I found it more snotty than a trash can of used tissues.

  5. I know that 1995 was 23 years ago, but besides the grainy B&W photos, which is remarkable considering how far photography has come just since then, are today’s attitudes towards sex, alcohol and drugs, spousal abuse, etc. THAT radically different from the ones back then? Its not like this book is from 1945 or ’55!

  6. I’m not the submitter but skimming the table of contents I get the impression that it is not is
    not to subject itself that makes the book irrelevant for the students-from-wealthy-and-influential-families-who-go-to-private-schools but the assumptions the book makes about its readers
    Subchapters like:
    Importance of finishing high school
    What about the dollars?
    Living with Leanne’s mother
    do not exactly sound like they were written with students-from-wealthy-and-influential-families-who-go-to-private-schools in mind.

  7. Psst Kendra… The name of the blog is “Awful Library Books.” That should be a clue that the commentary is going to be less than charitable.

  8. People are not for hitting? The message is good, but the wording is overly childish.

    Was this a reprint? Because that picture in the kitchen certainly wasn’t from 1995! I doubt the one on the cover was either.

  9. Clearly I did not communicate very well why this book is inappropriate for my school. Of course teen pregnancy and abuse happen in every community. Of course I will procure appropriate resources on those topics for my students. Hans gets it right in his list of topics that are not relevant for my students. In addition, my students are not legally allowed to have jobs here and will not be able to get their own apartment. Their parents could literally be fired and deported should the students get pregnant outside of marriage. Their relationships are more likely than not to be not only inter-cultural and inter-religious, but also inter-national. Their reality is that they might be forced to move thousands of miles away from the person they’re in a relationship with, and their partner might not even be able to get a visa to visit them. This book will not help them with any of that.

    1. Genuine interest: Are there resources for your patrons’/students’ situation? Not just being wealthy, but being in uncommon legal statuses like you describe?

      1. Not really. When it comes to books about issues such as relationships, abuse, pregnancy, etc., I try to find resources that are not so US-specific and deal with the topics in a more theoretical sense, which is definitely a collection challenge. I purchase anything that’s out there about the third-culture kid experience. Access to news sources and databases that have international resources is key.

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