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Parenting in the 1990s

Parenting for the 1990s
Osborne
1989

This book is all about combining those past theories of parenting into a new model. It seems as if there is always a “breakthrough” in how we parent. This is more an academic discussion. There is a grid outlining various parenting philosophies that I doubt non academics would find helpful. (I would be lying if I hadn’t thought about putting my kids in a Skinner box, just so everyone would be quiet.)

Parenting is just difficult no matter what. I read parenting books all through the 1990s when my kids were little. I am not sure that I had any particular moments of clarity or insight reading any of these books. The best advice is to keep trying and to keep reading, hoping one of these ideas or books will speak to your family.

Mary

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Taking Care of Your Child

Taking Care of Your Child
A Parent’s Guide to Medical Care
Pantell, Fries, and Vickery
1992

Another entry from my Swedish Death Cleaning project.

Since it has a 1992 publishing date, it has to be when I changed pediatricians and went to a new practice. Old pediatrician yelled at me for not breast feeding enough, even though I told him that I hadn’t had a shower in a month and was walking around topless trying to feed the baby all the time. I wasn’t making enough milk to feed my kid and was tired of crying every time I went to see this guy. I don’t like anyone who is sanctimonious about breastfeeding, but I really didn’t like this guy (yes, a guy) tell me how I just needed to try harder or I would hurt my baby.

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Mom’s Fun Job

Why Can’t You Stay Home With Me?
A Book About Working Mothers
Hazen
1986

I know what the authors and publishers were trying to accomplish with books about working moms.  Reading it now, it just comes off as tone deaf. Mr and Mrs Privileged have a nice house and both parents have jobs. Throughout the book it is implied that Mrs Privileged works to give the family nice things. It is never about Mrs Privileged providing for her family. Dad’s family obligations aren’t even discussed. But look, he is helping out at breakfast time, so he must be a good guy. Unfortunately, the result of this book is that Dad is still the provider and doesn’t have to do too many childcare or household chores. Mom is still in charge of the household and this job is really just a side hustle for her “real” work. But its okay, kid. You get to eat out more and go on vacation.  Weed it and don’t look back.

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Mom and Dad Do Drugs

Drugs and Your Parents
McFarland
1991

Submitter: I might be an alcoholic. When I saw the young women dumping the booze down the drain my heart sank. “Not the good stuff!”Joking aside, this book is pretty out of date. A drug book from 1991 won’t have any of today’s designer drugs that are ravaging America.

Holly: Is every picture in this book a hair-in-the-face profile shot? Except, that is, for the lady with the banana clip. I haven’t seen one of those in a few decades! They all seem to have shadows, too. The photography seems amateur and dated. Parents who are addicts are no joke, but this book makes me laugh.