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I don’t understand my kids

How can I understand my kids?
Bridging the generation gap
Wagemaker
1978

Short answer: you can’t.

I have decided that one of the most popular subsets of parenting books is the understanding/I want to kill my teenager books. Parenting books are kind of a Hail Mary for surviving the drama of teens. Every generation goes through this. The themes are similar, kids don’t listen to parents and all their abundant advice/demands/standards. Kids complain that parents are basically clueless. Both sides are correct. Can this be solved with some scripture and this book? I doubt it.

Although a Christian themed book,  it wasn’t overly judgmental and it did put much of the burden of communication on the parents. The examples are interesting, but again assume white, upwardly mobile families with lots of resources and choices. How can they be real problems if you have resources and choices?

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Bad Mommy

Mommy, Where are You?
What could be more important than investing in the lives of your children
Mills
1992

Working moms, this book is for you. Did you know you are doing your children a disservice by being selfish and working outside the home? They will probably become criminals all because you put your selfish need to work above your kids. Lucky for you, this author is here to straighten you out.

I just want to laugh/snap at the author for thinking that all women have a choice in working. The author suggests that women with income challenges should take in sewing or sell baked goods. Of course this begs the question, if they are working at home, are they still giving their children the most of their time? Equally infuriating is implying that fathers just can’t do parenting as well as a mother.