How to Plan and Enjoy It
1977 (original copyright 1942)
Since it is June, how about some wedding planning info. Personally, I can’t think of an industry that has changed more since I got married back in the early 1980s. The insane amount of money spent on weddings these days boggles the mind. (Stop me before I start saying “these kids today…”)
As a parent of 2 kids that are getting married or are married, I have all of a sudden felt unprepared for the etiquette and party planning rules. My mom was old school and pretty conscious of certain rules: engraved invitations are a must, bridal registry is for china and silver services only, cash bars are tacky, etc.
This book is really a reflection of the mores of my time. Lots of hard and fast rules and very little discussions about costs and alternatives. The closest this book gets to alternative or special situations are: the “older bride”, divorced parents, and civil ceremonies. There is a tone of disapproval of these special instances which frankly don’t even rate as special anymore.
As a cultural artifact this book is kind of fun. Even back in the early 1980s, I would have thought this book to be a bit too stiff. In 2019, this book is almost ridiculous.