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We Never Had Any Trouble BeforeWe Never Had Any Trouble Before: First Aid for Parents of Teenagers

Submitter: I found this 40 year old parenting advice book languishing on the shelf at my local public library. This is such an important topic, but you need to have current information about this. 1975 is just too old!

Holly: The section on hitchhiking (below) seems ridiculous. Do kids today even think about “seeing America” by hitchhiking from one end to the other? I doubt it. Sure, we need to tell kids that hitchhiking is not a good idea, but this makes it sound almost like the parents are overreacting and it’s not such a bad thing as long as kids are aware of the risks. I like the open dialogue method, but I wonder what else the author suggests compromising on. Was this how kids were raised in the 70s? Mary?

Mary: I will say that evils of hitchhiking were a common theme in most of our “safety” discussions at school. I am sure I saw more than one filmstrip on this topic in my youth. I like to think of parenting books as a quest for the Holy Grail. I think it is cruel to suggest parents can find answers to the insanity of parenting teens. We posted this back in the early days of ALB and I never got to see any interior pages or interior shots. It looks like Roger never wrote any  more books besides this one. I like to think he was probably killed by a teenager or an angry parent wanting their money back for the cost of the book. On a side note: Roger looks like Robert Redford’s body double for the movie Jeremiah Johnson. (God, I am old.)

The Author, Roger Paine

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    1. Google obligingly found RWP III — now retired after a career as a United Church of Christ pastor, most recently in Lincoln, MA (a joint UCC/UUA congregation). (Does his progressive/liberal affiliation help to balance those Awful Library Books featuring titles by conservative evangelicals?) No photo, though, so whether he retained the Grizzly Adams look will take more investigation

  1. Hitch hiking is okay because only a fraction of a percent of rides are fatal. Wow! That sounds safe to me. And the old lie about “I have v.d. aka HIV” is hardly going to stop someone from hacking you up into wild critter chow. Dying a virgin is so much consolation.

  2. I was a teenager in the seventies and yes, this is pretty much exactly how kids were raised then (although I was in Oz not the US at the time). In case you’re wondering, it was a lot of fun!

  3. I never was a teenager. Oh, I looked like one on the outside, but on the inside I was still very much a child and then I grew into a “kidult”. There don’t seem to be any books on what to do if your teen wants to still do kid things and has zero interest in the “adult” stuff other students their age want to do, even if they’re not old enough and are definitely not mature enough. And if there was, they’d probably have horrible advice where they tell you to force the teen into situations that make them stressed out or not let them be themselves. Actually that kind of thing happens all the time to people like me due to a little word called “autism”. 🙁

    1. Oh, goodness, Lora, you’ve summarized that well! I don’t have autism, but I never was a “typical” teen either…I wasn’t interested in drinking or sex, wished that in the 70s things were more clearcut dating-wise as they appeared to me to be in the 50s (based on pop-culture and parent-nostalgia impressions), and was saddened to be pressured into “growing out” of things like crafting, or looking for insects, and the like. In this regard, at least, I am pleased now to be middle-aged and allowed to be whatever the heck I want to be 🙂

      1. Me too! Meee toooo! I finally, regretfully put my dolls away when we moved house when I was 14, but I would definitely still have played with them for a couple of years after that had I been able. I never went through a real “teen” phase at all.

        And yeah, there’s autism in my family, so…

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