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The Dating Game for Christian Teens

The Dating Game
Miles
1975

If you are old enough you probably looking at the cover and expecting the book to be about the actual Dating Game. Similar font and general look. However, this Dating Game is directed at young people. Although the author is self-professed biblical fundamentalist, it isn’t as bad as some books in this category.

If this was 1975, and you were looking for a Christian teen dating book, this would probably be fine. Themes and topic aside, these materials age because the references and examples. Today’s teens (and their parents) probably wouldn’t understand or relate to any of the references. By the mid 1970s the Dating Game tv show was more or less relegated to re-runs and was kind of outdated reference for a teen book in 1975.

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Teen Dating in the 1980s

Teen Dating
Stewart
1984

Aside from the crunchy brown paper, and a girl sporting a Cosby sweater, this isn’t too bad on the teen dating advice front. Yes it is outdated, but the advice is pretty generic. Look for qualities that are about friendship, be respectful, etc. A lot of the book is devoted to understanding social situations. There are tips on throwing a party, entertaining a date, going to prom, and other group activities as well.

However, it is glaringly out of date in terms of technology and social norms. I also think it is important to reiterate how important cover art is to getting someone to actually pick up the book. Fast forward 10 or so years, and the book looks dated. After 30 years, it is a book suitable for this blog.

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Cyber Seduction

Online Seductions
Gwinnell
1998

Before all the dating apps, Facebook, and other social media all sorts of interactions were happening in the early media of AOL, Prodigy, and BBS groups. The author professes to neither be “for” or “against” online matches. She has mostly anecdotes of both successful and not so successful matches.

Online dating is pretty mainstream now, so although her advice is not wrong, it is out of date. Time to let this one go and update with something from this century.

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Love on the Job

Love at Work
Using Your Job to Find a Mate
Kent
1988

Remember the bookHow to Marry the Man of Your Choice? How to Marry the Man of Your Choice? Well, our author strikes again by offering up the workplace as a potential spouse hunting ground. Thinking of my jobs past and present, I am not so sure I would choose someone from my workplace. I can feel every person in HR just cringing and saying “this should end well”.

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Will I Go to Heaven?

Will I Go to Heaven?
Mayle
1976

Submitter: This book comes from a small public library. It has had 4 circulations since 2001. That alone is enough to pull the book. Then there are some questionable illustrations and text that are a bit confusing and likely offensive in today’s social climate. For a children’s book there is A LOT of text. There are also some torn and stained pages. We do get requests for children’s books on death and heaven on occasion. It’s a difficult topic to explain and this book would likely confuse young minds.

Holly: Ughhhhh. I’m really tired of these cartoony images of historical and cultural groups of people. It’s not cute. And did we ever need children’s books with beer-guzzling Vikings? Ummm…no. We didn’t.

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Make a toast to the bride and groom

Wedding Speeches and Toasts
Jeffery
1971

Another “how to make a speech book”, this time from the UK. In the days before the Internet, this was actually a pretty common question at the reference desk. I remember when our library had lots of these types of books. We also had a bunch of books on delivering a eulogy or writing a condolence note. Aside from the age of these kind of materials, I am not sure these have a book equivalent anymore. I think most people are heading to a Pinterest board or Googling for answers. Consider this an artifact from the old days.

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English Wedding Etiquette

Wedding Etiquette Properly Explained
Heaton
1986

Planning a wedding? This small book has all the answers for 1986. This particular book is focused on the rules for marriage in the Church of England. However, there is plenty of additional advice on gifts, engagement, and the duties of the wedding party. Luckily this is all “properly explained”, so the reader can relax. This book has you covered.

This book is pretty rule driven. There is a right way and a wrong way. Duties and obligations are straightforward, and there isn’t much flexibility. I am not sure this book will be much help in 2019.