Waiting to Die

title page of the old person in your home

The Old Person in Your Home

In the author’s introduction, he complains how young people treat the elderly with disdain. The author wants us to know that the elderly are not a drag and that they have much to teach us. The remaining chapters talk about the transition, family dynamics and boundaries with the elderly relatives, as well as health concerns. Based on the topics, I would have said this was an appropriate purchase for the late 1960s and 1970s.

There is an assumption that the elderly will be “difficult” and resist ceding authority to the new head of household. It also assumes that the woman will be doing the nursing/care giving. There is also some helpful advice about re-distributing chores like mending and child care to Grandma. (Grandpa evidently doesn’t have any responsibilities.) I can appreciate the need for frank talk about care giving, but this book isn’t going to help anyone now.

Not getting any younger,



how elderly people contribute to family life

living together

difficulties with old people



    1. …And it can apply to many old people today, so I question how obsolete this book really is.

      As for Grandpa, he doesn’t have any responsibilities because he’s most likely dead.

  1. It is a good reminder that we shouldn’t shuttle off Mom and Dad when their age becomes a nuisance. I took care of my dying Mother after becoming a new Mom. It was so difficult at times, but I wouldn’t change a thing.

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