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How to find romance after 40 coverHow to Find Romance After 40

Submitter: When I spot check the shelves for weeding, my eye is always drawn to yellow toned books. Here is one that caught my eye at my local library. How to Find Romance After 40 was published in 1985. This would mean that the people this book was written for then, would be 70+ today. Great choice for 1985, not so valuable today. The Male Shopping list on page 186 says “Does not Keep Cats.” Well that can probably eliminate most of us librarians, lol.

Holly: This is completely irrelevant because it doesn’t mention online dating. I also love that the examples of women in their 40s include Joan Collins, Sophia Loren, Linda Grey, and Jane Fonda.

Why men really do like women over 40

what men want in a woman

how men look at women's bodies

trends helping women look better

Blind dates of the 1980s

Stages singles go through

shopping list - men



  1. I once found a book called “Sex After 40” in my parent’s house when I was in my late teens, but when I opened it all the pages were blank.. Ha ha.

  2. Nothing wrong with a shopping list. I don’t see anything wrong with the one in the book even. The man doesn’t like cats. He doesn’t want a woman who just wants his money (has her own job that pays decently for the time). He doesn’t want a smoker or alcoholic (me neither!). He is attracted to small women (small in my book, but I’m 5’9″ without shoes!).

    Face it, we all, men or women, have a list of physical attributes that attract us. Maybe we meet and fall in love with someone who doesn’t match up, but our ideal shopping list will be based on physical characteristics. I’m tall, I want a tall man.

    Lifestyle is a BIG deal in a relationship, it isn’t superficial by any means! It’s probably the most important thing. I have dogs, I won’t want anyone who is allergic or even remotely dislikes them. I am allergic to cigarette smoke. A man could be perfect in all other ways, but if he smokes I wouldn’t even consider a first date. We all have deal breakers.

    The book needs updating though.

  3. “You can be plump. It’s harder, but you can be” – I’ve never found it hard to be plump!

  4. It’s weird that she says that short haircuts are outdated — in the early & mid-1980s when I was a kid, short perms seemed like the “in” thing for women over 25.

    I also laughed at the incredulous “How do you do it, Julia?!” in the intro as if she’s starring in an infomercial… “Well, for just forty-nine ninety-five…” 😉

  5. I wouldn’t really call most of this advice wildly out of date, it all seemed pretty reasonable to my Gen X feminist eyes. I would point out, though, that the most helpful Trends That Helped Women Look Better and Better would have been the lack of war and poverty, compared to the previous generation. There’s nothing more aging than terrible stress.

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