Old School Wedding Planning

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Your wedding

Your Wedding
How to Plan and Enjoy It
Woods
1977 (original copyright 1942)

Since it is June, how about some wedding planning info. Personally, I can’t think of an industry that has changed more since I got married back in the early 1980s. The insane amount of money spent on weddings these days boggles the mind. (Stop me before I start saying “these kids today…”)

As a parent of 2 kids that are getting married or are married, I have all of a sudden felt unprepared for the etiquette and party planning rules. My mom was old school and pretty conscious of certain rules: engraved invitations are a must, bridal registry is for china and silver services only, cash bars are tacky, etc.

This book is really a reflection of the mores of my time. Lots of hard and fast rules and very little discussions about costs and alternatives. The closest this book gets to alternative or special situations are: the “older bride”, divorced parents, and civil ceremonies. There is a tone of disapproval of these special instances which frankly don’t even rate as special anymore.

As a cultural artifact this book is kind of fun. Even back in the early 1980s, I would have thought this book to be a bit too stiff. In 2019, this book is almost ridiculous.

Mary

 

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8 comments

  1. It doesn’t look like it got much updating since 1942. That’s obviously the original art and typeface.

  2. As a twenty-something who was married a few years ago, I too find the current culture of weddings absolutely ridiculous. Couples, especially the women, are told that they must spend oodles of money on unnecessary things, and many unfortunately believe it.

  3. That’s because we’re up against (what the Car Guys called it) “the matrimonial-industrial complex” and those who oppose it get squashed like bugs.

  4. My grandparents got married in 1942. He wore his uniform and my grandmother wore a nice dress. They went to a preacher’s house and some friends stood as best man and bridesmaid. That was it. There are about 2 photos from the day. He was stationed out in California and had her come visit from Kansas, so no family. His joke was that he couldn’t afford to send her back so he had to marry her!

  5. “Spinster luncheon/dinner” ??? The last time I heard “spinster” it was being used as a code word for “lesbian”. (Same for “old maid”.) Now in the age of GLBT pride those code words have gone out the window and good riddance ! As for bachelor/ette parties, I bet the risqué-erie is still VERY much alive!

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