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Creative Marriage
Ellis and Harper
1969 (original copyright 1961)

One of my library minions who will be finishing up an MLIS this December is getting married next spring. Naturally, I started combing the catalog for some super “helpful” titles on marriage and weddings. I am not sure she appreciated my help in this manner when the average age of my selections were more than 30 years old. (Yes, tormenting library students can be fun.)  This title came up in my search and I thought it would be nice to feature it here.

This particular title presents a nice example of a somewhat questionable weed. On the face this is an old marriage guide with a sex focus and is obviously dated. On the other had, Ellis was an important psychologist and his works do have a place in libraries. For the small/medium public library this would probably be a slam dunk weeding choice. Larger collections would probably retain this title and universities would as well.

Once again, a title like this might be at first glance an easy weed but thinking about collection objectives and your service population will always trump any weeding “rules”. Aren’t you lucky Elle to have me arrange both collection development and marriage info in one covenient blog post?

Mary

More Marriage Advice:

Handbook for Bridezilla’s Mom

Enemies of Marriage

Wedding Night Jitters

Make Your Man A Sensitive Man

14 Responses to Marriage Advice

  • After the teaser on page 241, I’d like to learn why the husband was so “unhappy,” apparently from his wife getting her psychological problems “solved” over the last three months. Is this some strategy to get your readers to check out the book to assure that it won’t be weeded”

    • Since Wayne State University has this book in storage, I’ve just requested it to solve this mystery.

  • So that first woman was *coercing troubled teenagers into sex,* and her whole problem was that she was rebelling against authority? I’m gonna go out on a limb here and theorize that she might have deeper problems…

  • Co-written by the great Albert Ellis…“Stop shoulding on yourself”
    ― Albert Ellis

  • “…a Lesbian, a so-called nymphomaniac, and a prude”? Oy!

  • These excerpts actually make me angry. His disdain for his patients practically drips off the page. Why on earth is it a “silly notion” that your father ought to love you? And what is with his “I’ll show HER” attitude?

  • There seems to be a plentiful amount of non sequiturs. For example, it is hardly ascertained on p. 159 that Pamela’s Lesbianism is a result of not having been close enough to her sisters. A commodious explanation, but who would ever wit? People have various needs of things being close and you cannot assert an average ratio, also because of qualitative differences. ’Tis particularly amusing how our storyteller is apt to discern the patient’s “unconscious rebelliousness”. The lack of dogmatical stringency makes the book poor of sustainable content. The text seems to have been published more for reasons of thoughts of fashion than of integrity.

  • Ellis may have been prominent in his day, but what awful opinions! Please, keep this out of the hands of the unsuspecting general public. “No one is born homosexual or heterosexual” indeed! We have come a long way, babies. Also, I fail to see anything creative in these pages about marriage.

  • Somehow the tone of the book reminds me of Dr. Phil Mcgraw.

  • the author’s idiotic opinions about sexual orientation aside, the other thing I find troubling is the assumption that a married woman should allow her husband to decide what she wears….

  • I have a punctuation nitpick. A Lesbian is an inhabitant of the island of Lesbos, a lesbian is a woman who is attracted to other women. I wonder if there’s a link between homophobia and poor punctuation?