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Is your man a “fixer upper?”

How to Make Your Man More Sensitive
O’Connor and O’Connor
1975

Straight from the 1970s, we have another make your man better book. This husband and wife are here to teach you to the inside secrets to improving your man. I bet all the men are very eager to learn how they can be more sensitive. I wonder if these two are still married?

Mary

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12 Responses to Is your man a “fixer upper?”

  • Dick looks Whupped.

  • Of course Dick looks whupped – he is married to Sarah Silverman.

  • Wow. First, there’s the blatant, unconscious sexism and complete ignorance of everyone who doesn’t fit neatly into the male-female mold. But this was The Seventies, so we pretty much have to expect that.

    Second, there’s the outright advocacy of the one thing that’s fatal to a relationship, which is a breakdown of honest, adult communication. If you have an issue, talk about it. Directly. Don’t try and leave hints and hope the other person can read minds. That’s idiotic, disrespectful, frustrating, idiotic, and idiotic.

    Third, the specific tactics the book advises all sound exactly like an idiot having an affair and not trying too hard to cover it up.

    This was a weeder from the first day it was published.

  • @Jolene Finn You are right! Diane does look like Sarah Silverman.

  • Man “stupid wisecracks at romantic moments” is my a-game.

  • Look who endorsed in on the inside flap! We’ve seen them – and their book – before.

  • Wow, I don’t know what’s more depressing:

    That this guy actually had to learn, “She isn’t my property;”
    That, “When he expects you to be at a certain place at a certain time, be elsewhere” was considered good relationship advice;
    That “stupid wisecracks at romantic moments” are frowned upon (hey, they work for my husband and me!);
    That a man who “put[s] you down in front of others” is considered merely insensitive;
    or that a woman simply taking time to do some things she likes for herself is presented as manipulation of her partner, rather than just normal human behavior.
    (I’m thinking: if you want to see a movie, see a movie. No need to apologize for it. But don’t do it just for the sake of playing mind games with your spouse.)

    All in all, I would guess that the quickest way to a divorce is to write a marital-advice book with your spouse.

  • A man who puts you down in front of others is not insensitive, he is abusive. The other behaviours I totally agree can just be gormlessness, and can be worked on. But a man that puts you down? RUN.

  • It’s one of the staples of dating books (and probably still is): Make yourself unavailable to him/her and he/she’ll want you more. Not that being a staple excuses it, but it’s not like they’re really far out of the mainstream.

  • Pretty sure this is the same woman writing these blogs.

    http://honoringmenopause.blogspot.com/
    http://diannasgallery.blogspot.com/

    No mention of any husband.

  • No wait…just found a pic of them on the first blog and it’s totally the same couple. Cute!

  • Um, if you read this, sensitivity is NOT your man’s biggest problem…

    By the way, does anyone else think Dick has a look on his face in the picture that says, “Please, somebody shoot me now, I beg of you…”