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The New Seventeen Book of Etiquette and Young Living
Haupt
1970

Girls! Here is your manual for the good life: wedding planning, wardrobe, job hunting and getting ready for college. Of course you can do this all while being the perfect wife and mother.

As of October 1, 2013 this lovely gem was on the shelf of a teen collection in a small public library. Note the publication date. (This is where Holly would gleefully point out she wasn’t even BORN yet!) History buffs would find this interesting and of course, back in the day this would have been a go-to item for teen etiquette.

This particular edition has more pen and crayon marks than I have seen in a long time, as well as some stained pages. However since this poor book is over 40, I am willing to cut it some slack. The librarians hoarding this gem, however, not so much. Weed it and embrace a copy of one of Miss Manners’ books or Peggy Post (Emily Post’s great granddaughter). Preferably from the last few years.

Mary

 

book of etiquette back cover

advice to meet boys

looking for boys

preparing a resume

job advice

 

5 comments

  1. I was born before 1970, and I was a young teen! Although 13 was then too young to date (I think it is too young now, but they do it…) then, so I wouldn’t have been interested in this book.

    The author said young people then were searching for “equitable opportunities for all,” yet suggests girls tell boys that HE ought to run for class president. How about SHE run instead, and ask him to be HER campaign manager?!

    While I disagree with doing it, the ol’ “stupid act” does still work! “I hope you can explain that laser to me” would work even today! Boys do like to think they are smarter than the girls. I have a strange dog statute with a book of wisdom attached to his tail (The Pensive Pup) that was published in 1908. The Pup said then that “The smart woman is she who convinces a man that he is smarter than she is.”
    Movie reviewer (San Francisco television) Jan Wahl said she sat next to a handsome man on an airplane once, and told him how nervous she was since it was her first flight. He “helped” her through it, and they later married! Of course, it wasn’t true, and they can laugh about it now! I have a 20 year old daughter, and she has never pretend to be less intelligent that she is. Some boys hated that she already knew things they were “teaching” her, but then they weren’t for her!

    I do not believe that many boys in 1970 or in 2013 “opening admire a girl’s intellect.” I wish it were so.

  2. Discard on the grounds of the career advice alone. Putting your SSN on your resume is probably the most obviously bad idea in that list.

    I also have to sigh at the idealism on the back cover, that “young people […] have emerged as the moral conscience of the nation.” Who is the moral conscience of (any) nation now?

  3. That bit about the art exhibits: “What chiaroscuro!” Am I the only one reminded of that terrible pick-up line book from a while back? I also like that it references two specific things (chiaroscuro and Picasso’s blue period), that a young teenager might not know about, and so this kind of sets them up to look like complete idiots. Of course, on reading further, looking like a complete idiot is apparently how to get “a man.” It’s true, unfortunately, as Lisa above said; girls still pull the dumb act to impress men. Then they’re surprised when they get stuck dating dumb guys.

  4. I was right at the age for that book, but I would not have trusted anything by a person with hair like that. Everybody was wearing waist-length, dead-straight hair parted in the middle. Only Lady Bird Johnson could have a hair-style like that and be cool.

  5. The author’s hair made me laugh, but I rather liked the sound of her biography page, even if some of her advice was a bit anti-feminist.

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